Some users of GreenDay have asked for more input on how we list goals and rules in the application. With the new log detail feature available in 1.6, I thought I’d share our list of goals and rules.
- Following direction.
- Taking a break.
- Being independent.
- Being a bucket filler.
- Being considerate.
- Being safe.
- Doing chores.
- Not following direction.
- Being mean.
- Screaming or yelling.
- Touching people without permission.
- Touching people’s stuff without permission.
- Refusing direction.
- Not changing bad behavior after warning.
Although the touching people and people’s stuff may seem a little strict, Cici (our Aspergirl) has a problem keeping her hands to herself which has gotten her into trouble in school and at home.
The Yellow rule “Not following direction” and the Red rule “Refusing direction” are needed to implement our behavior plan for following direction. We ask the girls to do something, and if they don’t do it, we point and give them 10 seconds. If they don’t do it, they go in yellow, then they’re not allowed to do anything fun until they do it. They have five minutes to do it until they go in red.
Dad: “Go set the table, please,” after getting child’s attention.
Dad: Points and counts to 10 in his head.
Dad: Moves child into yellow in the app and selects “Not following direction.” Dad then takes away from child whatever she is playing with, or if impossible, moves her away from what she’s doing. If child starts yelling and screaming, she is placed into red with “Not changing bad behavior after warning.” If she stays calm but doesn’t follow the direction within five minutes, she’s placed on red with “Refusing direction.”
Dad: “Go set the table, please,” after getting Child’s attention.
Dad: “Thank you <child’s name>. I really appreciate it,” after getting her attention.
Child: “You’re welcome, Dad.”
Dad: Gives child a token, and selects “Following direction”.
Note: It’s very important to only give your child direction to do something that they already know how to do, and if the task needs to be done a certain way, that you showed them multiple times on how you want the task done.